When are unique wedding ideas too unique?

Unique wedding ideas - Cut through the noise of conflicting opinions to create your own unique wedding ideas without fear of mistakes.

Finding unique wedding ideas is a digging process. This is part of what makes planning fun, like digging for cool stuff at a garage sale. It's not that easy or convenient, but it's fun.

There are way too many wedding ideas out there to cover on one little page. This whole site and countless others are full of them - unique ideas for ceremonies, receptions, wedding cakes, wedding favors, and so on.

In this digging process, you'll find a lot of noise in the form of conflicting opinions, differences in taste, and so on, that may leave you wondering if your unique wedding ideas are too unique.

How do you know if your unique wedding ideas are too unique? I mean, by definition, "unique" means different or one of a kind. But weddings are one of the most traditional things people do in life.

And how do you cut out all the noise of conflicting opinions on everything that relates to wedding ideas and etiquette?

It's easy but it requires mustering up a little confidence. So first of all, know this. You and your fiance are the captains of this little ship called your wedding. The decisions are yours, and you're perfectly capable of making them and standing by them. That means any other individual's opinion comes after yours. Always listen to different opinions, because your decisions may be better as a result.

You know what's right and good, acceptable and comfortable for your family and guests as a whole. And know this, nobody can tell you who you are. At best, they can only tell you their perception of you, which may well be wrong.

Having said that, a good captain of a ship respects and is respected by his or her subordinates. So the only question left is, "How do you achieve that balance?"

It's simple. Just as in life, treat your guests as you would want to be treated, with their needs set above your own, and you'll be fine. You know your family and friends and how they'll respond to different things better than any advice columnist anywhere, us included.

Simply put, if your unique wedding ideas would make your guests feel uncomfortable, unwelcome, or feel like they're being pitched for a gift or persuaded, move on to different ideas. There are so many ways to do all of these things, that there is plenty of room for change if something isn't working. There is more than one way for you to have the wedding of your dreams. And the most unique wedding ideas involve the perfect tailoring of some idea, whether new or old, for you and your particular crowd.

So with all that confidence in yourself, have fun digging for your own unique wedding ideas and tailoring them to strike the balance between unique and traditional that is right for you.